Author & Vlogger, EbonyJanice Calls for ‘The End of Thirstiness’
Author, vlogger, wellness coach, and creative artist Ebony Janice has one primary mission: “to help people get free”. She is an Ohio native who is currently making moves with her new book, The End of Thirstiness: Lessons on Rejecting Desperation, Being Whole, Free, Single & Satisfied. This month, we got to chat with her about pop culture, the notion and definition of “thirstiness”, her new book, spirituality, race & gender, and more.
Ebony Janice states that writing The End of Thirstiness was another step on her path of transparency. Back in 2011, she decided to share her journey through a breakup and into healing through vlogging and writing. “At that time,” Janice says, “I was so depressed. But I ended up writing three books before The End of Thirstiness. At that time, I was confident that death was upon me… but I realized… I didn’t die, so I’m going to keep on truly living! I had a conversation with God about my purpose, and I realized that transparency is something that is missing, especially within spiritual settings. I didn’t have an example of what it looked like to break… to be broken about something, and to come through on the other side of it whole and free”. Thus, she picked up her pen, her mic, and her computer, deciding to be that example for others.
During this process, she reflects, “One day, I got a revelation… that I was thirsty”! I wanted to pause and clarify what that meant for her, specifically. Her book is centered around this idea of thirstiness. It encourages women to embrace who they are and where they are, outside of what she calls “a culture of desperation”. When asked about her definition of thirstiness, as expressed in the book, she states, “Thirstiness really has to do with an internal dryness that you cannot quench. There is something you feel you need but you don’t necessarily recognize what will be able to quench that thirst. It’s the feeling of, ‘Oh, I’m never going to be satisfied until I get this or that. I think it’s important to realize that in my authoring, in my vlogging, I’m not necessarily pro-singleness… I’m pro you. I want people to know, ‘You are enough. You are not lacking, and you don’t have to give in to an energy of ‘wanting”.
Ebony Janice addresses a few topics in her book, including information about the ways that engaging in spiritual acts and self care help women live empowered lives. These activities include everything from prayer, to yoga, to visualization, to intentional action and even list-making. She writes at length about chakras while also frequently unpacking accounts from Biblical texts, citing certain Scriptures to illustrate her points more fully.
Ebony Janice was rooted in a charismatic Christian background, and thus has done a lot of work in her book about releasing the fear of creating a greater understanding of spirituality. Given the tone of the book, I asked her who she believed that her audience was. She reflected briefly, “There was a time when I felt my audience was predominantly Black, Christian women. Perhaps that is true! I don’t know, but now, I try to focus on what is true to me… what I have found to be true… and sharing that with others. I was born and raised in the church. I’m going to quote Scripture… it’s just going to happen. Yet I’m also aware and wise enough to know that the Bible doesn’t talk about every single thing (i.e. benefits of yoga, visualization, intentional action, etc). I used to get really caught up with that. I call it the ‘Christian demonic filter’ because sometimes we can be quick to dismiss things that we don’t understand. But one day I had to realize, ‘The God of wonders is probably not worried about me having on big earrings… or doing yoga…’ So, I try not to limit what I know is true… I’ve found a lot of healing in these practices along with traditional Christian practices… So, in this book, I believe, there’s a message for everybody”.
The End of Thirstiness highlights one topic that I really wanted to chat with Ebony Janice about: the concept of soul ties. This concept might be explained, in its simplest form, as a spiritual bond between two people. However, this concept has been both embraced and shunned, due to the way that it has been used within sacred spaces. Given the understanding that Ebony Janice’s mission is to help people experience a freer, holistic life, I asked the question, “The concept of soul ties / breaking soul ties really resonates with some people, because it gives them an understanding of why they might be experiencing what you define as thirstiness or a desperation to cling to a specific person or partner. However, the concept of soul ties can also seem problematic for many others, because it has a history of being used to police women’s sexual agency. You unpack this concept in your book – how do you walk through that liminal space, paying attention to the various ways that people can receive that concept of ‘soul ties”?
Ebony Janice has a bright personality with impeccable comedic timing (please do yourself a favor and watch her vlogs)! Thus, most of our conversation was interspersed with laughter and joviality. However, sensing the gravity of the question, she clarified, “I believe that the soul is the most neglected part of humankind. We have our body, our spirit, and our soul. Your soul is your essence. Everything has an energy and an electricity… an alchemy. When you choose a partner to love, you create an alchemy of love. When you have been intimate with someone and then break that relationship, there can be a residue of their energy in your life. There is still energy that exists and sometimes, in order to move on, you have to do some soul work to chill that energy. So, I don’t talk about soul ties as a limiting thing. I’m not necessarily talking about staying chaste here. I’m talking about clearing space in your soul so that you can be self actualized. I’m talking about keeping ya motherfreakin’ chakras open” (which is also an appropriately titled chapter in her book)!
As our conversation diverged into culture, spirituality, and more, she left the Heeders with a parting message: “I just want people to understand… it is important to do the work that it takes to be free. A lot of people have no idea who they are; they use things to suppress memories. Deal with and process those things that stop you from being whole, because it is a terroristic act against yourself not to be who you really are”.
You can buy The End of Thirstiness on Amazon.com and experience side-splitting laughter and empowerment through her Youtube page, https://www.youtube.com/user/ebonyjanicepeace. You can also follow her on Twitter @EbonyJanice, and she is also available for life and wellness coaching through her #CouchTour workshop! To bring her to your church, ladies’ night, group meet, organization, and more, contact FreePeople@TheFreePeopleProject.com.